Once upon a time, a girl fell in love with a boy, and they planned their life together, talked about getting married and having kids, what type of dress she would wear, and what he was going to say in his vows.
Once upon a time, a girl, not yet a woman, but not a child, made dreams and goals for her life. She made plans and mapped out a exciting future, and a exciting life. She was so driven and passionate, and the only thing she was waiting for was that moment that she could finally be free to grab hold of all the dreams she had.
Once upon a time, there was a girl. Who gave up everything, her dreams, her passions, her fire and spunk, to live out one of her dreams. She met a boy, and he became her dream, her passion, her fire, and the reason she had spunk. He became her ultimate fairytale.
Once upon a time a boy met a girl, who gave everything for him, he was so in love with her, her passion, the way she ran after her dreams. Then he realized all she was running after was him, and no longer could he follow his dreams or his passions, because she was always right there, not that he really minded.
Once upon a time, people didn't always settle for 2nd best, and butchered up, glued together relationships.
Ive gone through these Once upon at times, before in my life. These false realities, and i sit at the end of a fairytale book, with a story that looks nothing like Cinderella, or a Twilight remake.
My story looks like a girl who tried to live in a dream, when reality was staring her in the face, that no matter how many times you closed your eyes and imagined perfection, when you opened them, Chaos and reality hit you square in the face.
This doesn't sound much like a happy blog, its not really one, but then again its also 3 in the morning, and i cant sleep. But the point of my rambling and my slightly depressing intro, actually has some form of a point.
And that point is simply: Dont settle for an idiot, dont settle for convenience, and dont settle for the guy that gave you a second chance, look, or let you be his redeeming love. Because odds are, your one in a million, and when he says that to you, its not a compliment.
Ive watched myself, close friends and loved ones walk through the journey of Settling for a dream that only is real when you close your eyes. Only real when the lights are on, and the dark, the problems, and the fake reality that has been built up cant be seen.
We live in a world that settles for everything.
I work in retail, its a joy. But in my profession i make my money by selling hair products to people that honestly dont need them, for a price thats honestly, too high. But i do it everyday. And if by chance, someone comes along, and im desperate to make a sale, i settle on the price they offer to buy it for, or settle for a lower price. Why? Well one because i would like to make some money, and two because i was desperate, so of course id go to reasonable lengths to make a sale, to make it happen.
Women, Girls, Ladies, Females, whatever terminology you want to use. We settle for too much. We get desperate so we lower our price, we lower our standards and we forget our ultimate selling price, our ultimate goal, our own dreams.
And for what? A guy that wants your product for cheap, and your prices are too high, so they bargain you down with their good looks, their charm, their "I love yous" Their "Your my one and only".
We set our morals high, and thats where they are supposed to be set. Because your worth the high price, but the guys we somehow end up with expect us to lower those morals, to lower your price, lower your value.
Because the fact is, they really don't care how artistic you are, how you want a country wedding, and 3 dogs and a little boy named Jack. They are looking for the cheapest price they can get you at, they want to spend the least amount of money for a product that is worth 10x more, but they know if they keep pushing, youll cave. Why? Because your desperate.
Desperate to fill that whole, that void in your life. Your dreams and life arnt working out exactly the way you wanted it too, so you switch to a new dream a new goal, and look who waltzes up right in your time of weakness, or your time of "need". You just got out of school, out of a bad relationship, out of a bad family life, you hate your job, where you life is going, and holy mackerel, here comes prince charming! He has no job because he is just "chillen, goin with the flow, not stressin" His car runs off energizer batteries because he likes to stay in shape, so he walks everywhere, so can you pick me up baby? He still owes his mom the rent from the 23 years he has been living in her house, and not once bought his own clothes.
Ladies, its time to wake up from this dream you got going on inside your head.
That If you settle for a loser, youll be a loser. If you settle for a guy who cant live his own life, what makes you think he is gunna give you any type of life too live?
Im not going to ramble anymore. I think ive got my point across, its just something that has been bothering me, so i blogged about it.
Im going to leave you hanging, and completely unsatisfied, because honey, if thats you, You already know what to do. So why should i tell you?
But, i will leave you with this:
Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.- Song of Songs 2:7.
Its become a verse ive learned to live by until that man that is willing to pay the price for me, to get the whole package for all its worth, comes around.
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